Showing posts with label the RIGHT thing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the RIGHT thing. Show all posts

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Silence

"Have you ever heard the wonderful silence just before the dawn? Or the quiet and calm just as a storm ends? Or perhaps you know the silence when you haven't the answer to a question you've been asked, or the hush of a country road at night, or the expectant pause of a room full of people when someone is just about to speak, or, most beautiful of all, the moment after the door closes and you're alone in the whole house? Each one is different, you know, and all very beautiful if you listen carefully."
— Norton Juster ~ The Phantom Tollbooth

Your Circle

Stumbling around on the internet I came across this saying. Honestly I am not even sure who said these words (sorry if it was you!)

The words contained really spoke to my soul though; at just the right time! (funny how that happens)

The familiar phrase, "you are the company you keep" shouts out in waves as I read this. My "circle" (as referring to the above quote) are all those people I choose to have in my life. Those people that consist of friends, acquaintances, co-workers, etc....  These people in my circle I trust. I respect. I love them, for who they are.
 They are the people that ADD to my life, not subtract!

From a young age it seems that society shoves it in our faces that our circle needs to be immense. The more you got the better life will be! (Facebook comes to mind here...)

 Trust me people!! All of those "friends" you have are not completing your circle. Really, they are not.

So, I challenge you to take a moment (or many a few hours) to really see the people in your life (your circle). Don't feel intimidated, either, to weed out the bad ones while you rope in tighter the great ones! Don't feel sorry for doing the weeding either! It's vital (at EVERY age)!





Wednesday, January 9, 2013

I choose...


I had an "eye-opening" experience just this morning...just as I was getting into the car to drive my nine year old daughter to school. As she was getting into the back seat of my car I noticed on the floor were the car mats that I had purchased some time ago. They were still in the package, waiting for me to put them where they needed to go. I had intended to do this some time ago...but, here they are...STILL sitting there!
 I made a comment out loud to my daughter (and to myself).  "Ugh! I don't have time to put those silly car mats in place!"  That is when it hit me! THAT is when I REALLY heard what I just said! I thought for a quick second and then proceeded to correct myself. "I mean, I don't MAKE the time to put these car mats in. I need to MAKE the time to do it!"
The rest of the way to school those words of correction to myself really socked it to me. I need to be the one to MAKE it HAPPEN. Not just about those "silly" car mats. It is way more than that. It exudes into EVERY aspect of my life.
I have to MAKE the TIME to run (well, walk) on that treadmill. It sure as heck is not going to come tapping on MY shoulder!

I have to MAKE the decision to eat (or not eat) that unhealthy food product that is sitting in front of me.

I have the CHOICE to let (NOT LET) the negative comments that others say influence my behavior and bring me down.

I have the right to say NO and MEAN it!!!

I have to MAKE the TIME to play that game of tag with my kids (even though I don't feel like it) READ that book that has been collecting dust right next to my bed. CALL and schedule that doctors appointment EVEN though I am SCARED to do it!

I have to MAKE the TIME to call my Mom more, pet the cat, watch the birds outside, just ENJOY LIFE!

You see, it was just SO much more than just another random car ride to school this morning.
 It is funny how little (or BIG) life lessons find a way to stop you in your tracks and take YOU along for the ride...

Friday, October 26, 2012

how big is your spoon?

You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor
~The Eighth Commandment from the Holy Bible
 
One of the reasons I started this blog was for all those times that I encounter random things throughout the course of my daily life (and there are A LOT of them!!) Things that kinda fall in place, even with out any help from me. They just kind of "show up" and take notice. Kinda like this morning!
 
I was on Pintrest, doing a search on recipes and I just randomly stumbled upon an interesting website. What makes this of great interest to me is that it fits just so nicely into what concerns I am currently having in my own life! The message that I received really hit it home and put a label on "those" people in my life.  The website was lesfemmes-thetruth. The article touches upon the subject of the eight commandment in the Bible and "pot stirring" (gossiping).
 
Just last night a neighbor of mine called to "pot stir" about a certain other neighbor. One that is less-than-adequate in her eyes! I selectively chose NOT to pick the phone up and listen to the "bubbling and boiling" of the pot on the stove! I knew what the "stew" was that was "cooking". I don't need to "taste" or even "look" at it. I could "smell" it! I have just recently learned that I DON'T have to join in the kitchen and hover over the "pot stirrer" anymore! I can let them claim the kitchen, while I choose to go into another room and use my time more wisely, (maybe by praying for the pot stirrer?).
 
 
 

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

what's your intent?

Philippians 2:2
Make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.
~ New American Standard Bible



Intent, according to the Merriam Webster online dictionary is- the state of mind with which an act is done.

When my two best friends and I get together a topic that we fairly often visit, time and time again, is the subject of friendship. We often try to decipher "relationships" in each of our own lives that we may be struggling to understand. We, for a time, have been trying to find a new word for those people in our lives that don't truly fit the "friend" mold, yet are a bit more than a simple acquaintance. It's tricky!

Not long ago I attended a Catholic conference in Illinois with the speaker being Michael Brown of Spiritdaily.  A whole range of current topics were addressed. He talked about what our mission in life should be. We touched on hard to grasp topics like the after-life and what is waiting for us there. Michael talked about the current state of the world and all the changes that are taking place on a religious front. What tied all these things together for me, and what I found to be a common thread in most of his talks, was the subjects of "unforgiveness" and "love" were repeated over, and over, and over again. He addressed these subjects together as in our own relationships that we have, whether they be family or in friendships, we have to learn to forgive and love those that we somehow can't. (no one said this was going to be EASY, though!

Michael suggested that we should "put a cross" between us and those "negative" relationships in our own lives. We need to pray for the "removal of layers" of hurt that others have caused us. Remove the pride that "they" hurt "me" SO badly! We need to forgive AND forget!  God wants us to love everyone. BUT, that doesn't mean to "excuse" everything!

{WHEW!! This really is HARD work!!}

Unforgiveness is the lack of forgiving. If we don't forgive, we are then held back- still attached. Darkness then finds a way to attach to that! By darkness I am referring to "the evil one" or the devil!!
Michael talked about the term "access points". What he means by that is areas of our lives that are weak. Areas of us that are are preoccupied with "other" things (anger, bitterness, negativity) and are easy targets for evil to enter.

This all brings me back to the word intent, as I first started talking about in this post. After the Catholic conference I began to get a clearer sense of those people in my life. People that I call friends and all those that I am still trying to find the right new word for! I began to focus my attention of what their intent was and what MY intent was! Was this a relationship that needed to continue? Does that other relationship need more work, maybe on MY end?

 I also did something dramatic. Actually VERY dramatic on my end! You see, after much thought, I realized that one of those "access points" in my life was actually right in front of me. It was preoccupying a large portion of my time. Time that I now chose to use for other purposes. That access point was Facebook! I had a deep tug in me to look closely at what purpose Facebook was providing me with. Whom was I in connection with that maybe I no longer needed to be. Was it a positive or negative outlet for me? Did I really need to see, hour by hour (and sometimes minute by minute) what certain people (friends as they call them on Facebook....even though "they" need the "other" word that I don't have for them yet) are doing? Sometimes making me feel jealous, angry, sad, etc...?!
I am in the process of removing myself from this outlet. Some of it has been easier than other parts. But, that is OK! It is a process and I am in the swing of it and, you know what? It feels WONDERFUL!!


Friday, October 19, 2012

wake up, People!



Have you ever had one of those moments where you feel something click? Like you are witnessing something for the first time, even though you have been doing the same thing...over and over and over?
I had that experience just last week, and it was as I was reading People magazine of all things!
Let me explain...

A year or so ago, I got the opportunity to order some "free" magazines using unused airline miles that my husband had. I chose a few and was thrilled that People magazine was one of the choices! Wow! I always seem to be intrigued by the cover of it as I am in the check out lane at the grocery store. Now, I can get it sent to my house, weekly, for free!! Woo hoo!! This was to be my one "guilty pleasure" as they (whom ever THEY are) call it. I am not a huge TV watcher. I am not into all of those reality shows, gossip shows and "talkity-talk" shows. Soap opera's never appealed to me. I got my "dirt" from People.

Well, the magazines started to come. Every Friday I would find a fresh People in the mailbox. Full of juicy star gossip and chatter! Waiting for me to dive into.

 But, this is when the "click" occurred. This is when something odd happened! Something really "opened my eyes" as I really paged through that People magazine the last time I read it. I began to really notice the "other stuff".

I first noticed that the magazine was not just entering my mailbox each week, but was also entering my home each week as well. I also noticed that it was covered with not the most positive messages. An almost half-naked woman adored the cover of the last People magazine I received! Was this the message that a Christian Mama wanted to be sending her family? Her girls?? Herself???
The articles about teen moms, diet secrets of the stars and "this star that divorced that star", have jumped at me, hit me in the face and FINALLY woke me up! Enough is ENOUGH!!!
It also didn't help that there was 9 ads in the magazine for some type of medication. 1 cigarette ad and 1 ad for alcohol!! If that wasn't enough, there was also a VERY disturbing ad for a new cable show on TV. The ad depicted, what appeared to be Catholic priests and nuns, doing all sorts of "un-holy" things! This was TOO much! No more!

This is when the Bible verse 2 Corinthians 5:17 came to mind:

17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

I have "seen the light" and things are becoming VERY new to me!! I am ready to let the "old things pass away"!

At that point I put that People magazine promptly in the garbage can. I made a promise to myself that as each new one came in the mail each Friday I would do the same thing with them as well! You can imagine my surprise when last week Friday, as I opened my mailbox, I saw my People magazine sitting there...but this time it was not alone! For a "twin" had decided to join it this week! For now I am getting 2 instead of one! Hmmm... the devil ain't messin' with this Mama!!
 


Tuesday, February 7, 2012


Drop a Pebble in the Water

Drop a pebble in the water: just a splash, and it is gone;
 But there's half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on,
Spreading, spreading from the center, flowing on out to the sea.
 And there is no way of telling where the end is going to be.

Drop a pebble in the water: in a minute you forget,
 But there's little waves-a-flowing, and there's ripples circling yet,

And those little waves-a-flowing to a great big wave have grown;
 You've disturbed a mighty river just by dropping in a stone.

Drop an unkind word, or careless: in a minute it is gone;
 But there's half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on.
They keep spreading, spreading, spreading from the center as they go,
 And there is no way to stop them, once you've started them to flow.

Drop an unkind word, or careless: in a minute you forget;
 But there's little waves a-flowing, and there's ripples circling yet,
And perhaps in some sad heart a mighty wave of tears you've stirred,
 And distrubed a life was happy ere you dropped that unkind word.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness: just a flash and it is gone;
 But there's half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on,
Bearing hope and joy and comfort on each splashing, dashing wave
 Till you wouldn't believe the volume of the one kind word you gave.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness: in a minute you forget;
 But there's gladness still a-swelling, and there's joy a-circling yet,
And you've rolled a wave of comfort whose sweet music can be heard
 Over miles and miles of water just by dropping one kind word.

                                                                          ~ James W. Foley


Monday, January 23, 2012

a lesson on life...


        Cast me not off in the time of old age: when my strength shall fail, do not thou forsake me.
                                                                     Psalm 71:9

I had the extreme pleasure of escorting my third grade daughter to her Brownie outing yesterday. The girls were hosting a "tea" for the local senior residents, at their facility, here in town.
When we arrived, I was very pleasantly surprised to see a nice amount of women (and men) had already arrived and were seated, eager to have tea time with our girls.
The girls sat with the residents, asked questions, served them yummy cookies and treats, and just had this time to visit, and make someones day a bit brighter.


Two highlights for ME were these. I observed two Brownie girls conversing with an older gentleman. He sat, drank his tea, and didn't converse much back, until one of the girls handed him a little sheet of paper. On it were a series of questions that this girl wanted to know about him. Instantly I saw this mans face light up with a smile, the first time all tea time! Later, I learned that this gentleman was 103 years young! WOW!

I also heard that one resident woman began to cry! She told the Brownie girls at her table how happy she was that we had come to visit with her!

It was truly heartwarming and a very touching experience, for both me and my daughter. One we will not soon forget.

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This was taken from the internet. I found it very inspirational!

"When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in North Platte , Nebraska , it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.


Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Missouri .


The old man’s sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.


And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this ‘anonymous’ poem winging across the Internet."




Crabby Old Man



What do you see nurses? . . . .. . What do you see?

What are you thinking . . . . . when you’re looking at me?

A crabby old man . . . . . not very wise,

Uncertain of habit . . . . . with faraway eyes?



Who dribbles his food . . . . . and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice . . . . . ‘I do wish you’d try!’

Who seems not to notice . . . . . the things that you do.

And forever is losing . . . . . A sock or shoe?



Who, resisting or not . . . . . lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding . . . . . The long day to fill?

Is that what you’re thinking? . . . . . Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, nurse . . . . . you’re not looking at me.



I’ll tell you who I am. . . . . . As I sit here so still,

As I do at your bidding, . . . . . as I eat at your will.

I’m a small child of Ten . . . . . with a father and mother,

Brothers and sisters . . . . . who love one another.



A young boy of Sixteen . . . . with wings on his feet.

Dreaming that soon now . . . . . a lover he’ll meet.

A groom soon at Twenty . . . . . my heart gives a leap.

Remembering, the vows . . . . . that I promised to keep.



At Twenty-Five, now . . . . . I have young of my own.

Who need me to guide . . . . . And a secure happy home.

A man of Thirty . . . . . My young now grown fast,

Bound to each other . . . . . With ties that should last.



At Forty, my young sons . . . . . have grown and are gone,

But my woman’s beside me . . . . . to see I don’t mourn.

At Fifty, once more, babies play ’round my knee,

Again, we know children . . . . . My loved one and me.



Dark days are upon me . . . . . my wife is now dead.

I look at the future . . . . . shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing . . . . . young of their own.

And I think of the years . . . . . and the love that I’ve known.



I’m now an old man . . . . . and nature is cruel.

Tis jest to make old age . . . . . look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles . . . . . grace and vigor, depart.

There is now a stone . . . . where I once had a heart.



But inside this old carcass . . . . . a young guy still dwells,

And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells.

I remember the joys . . . . . I remember the pain.

And I’m loving and living . . . . . life over again.



I think of the years, all too few . . . . . gone too fast.

And accept the stark fact . . . . that nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people . . . . . open and see.

Not a crabby old man . . . Look closer . . . see ME!!





Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within.



We will all, one day, be there, too!





Tuesday, May 17, 2011

do as I say, do as I do



We have all heard of the phrase, "do as I say, not as I do", right?  In my mind this means, don't imitate my actions, but obey my words. Okay, that is fine and dandy, but the more I think about this, though, as a parent, (a mom), are these words the words that I want to live by? Not so much.

As parents (adults), children watch us and soak everything up like a giant sponge. They take in both, what I say AND what I do. For an example, if I tell my kids to treat others with kindness and yet myself don't show this to others, I feel a mixed message is sent. If I tell my kids all about the dangers of drinking and drugs, yet I partake in such activities how am I setting a correct example? I would be a fake, a phony, and a liar!

Once at the dinner table I corrected my youngest daughter for talking with her mouth full. Not long after that, she caught ME doing the same thing and asked, "why is it alright for you to talk with your mouth full and not me?" Good point daughter, good point!

And, this is what my point is all about. My kids are watching me! Yep. Every action bad and good is picked up by those innocent learning eyes. In no way am I am perfect parent! Indeed, I am far from that. All I can do is try my best, say many prayers, and learn to forgive myself (not always easy!)

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

the Advent virus...

The Advent Virus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Anonymous via email

WARNING……WARNING: ADVENT VIRUSBe on the alert for symptoms of inner Hope, Peace, Joy and Love. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to this virus and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict in the world.Some signs and symptoms of The Advent Virus:-A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences.
-An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
-A loss of interest in judging other people.
-A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
-A loss of interest in conflict.
-A loss of the ability to worry. (This is a very serious symptom.)
-Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
-Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.
-Frequent attacks of smiling.
-An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
-An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.


Please send this warning out to all your friends. This virus can and has affected many systems. Some systems have been completely cleaned out because of it.

Happy Advent!


Monday, November 22, 2010

no one will ever know...



No One Will Ever Know

By Janet Seever


Karen, Judy, and I were the last ones back in the schoolroom after lunch. We put our metal lunch boxes on the shelf above the coat hooks, which were mostly empty. All of the other sixth graders were already outside, playing marbles or hopscotch or jumping rope, since it was a pleasant spring day.


"Look what I found this morning in the storage cupboard when I was getting out some art supplies for Mrs. Eiffler." With a conspiratorial grin on her face, Karen held up a wooden box filled with short pieces of chalk in every color of the rainbow.


"Wow! What fun it would be to write on the chalkboard while everyone is outside." Judy's eyes twinkled with anticipation.


"But Mrs. Eiffler doesn't want us writing on the chalkboard," I responded, already feeling guilty, although we had not yet done a thing.


"Don't be such a 'fraidy cat', Janet. No one will ever know," Karen, reaching into the box and drawing out a piece of chalk.



"Right. Everyone is outside, so we're safe. No one will tell on us." Judy was already drawing a house with sure strokes.


I reluctantly joined my friends in the artwork, wanting to be part of what was going on, but afraid of being caught. I knew well that we were breaking not one, but two class rules. The second rule was that no one was allowed to stay inside at noon without a written excuse from home if the weather was nice.


Trying various colors, we drew houses, trees and three-dimensional boxes. It was fun! All the time we were watching the clock, knowing that our fun would be over if anyone walked into the room.


Then Judy had an idea. "We're all right-handed. Let's see who can write their name the best using their left hand."


Judy and Karen picked up their chalk and started writing. I chose a white piece from the box and wrote my name. The handwriting was a bit shaky, but no one would doubt that it said "Janet."


I think Judy is the winner, "said Karen. "Hers is the best."


"We'd better get this board cleared off before Mrs. Eiffler comes back," said Judy, eying the clock. She picked up an eraser and began erasing our handiwork from the board.


Everything came off...but my name!


In disbelief, I looked at the chalk I held in my sweaty hand. On closer examination, it wasn't chalk at all. I had picked up a small piece of white color crayon which was mixed with the pieces of chalk.


My stomach churned and my knees felt weak. What would Mrs. Eiffler do with me?


My mother had a saying: "Fools names and fools faces always appear in public places." I never fully understood what it mean before. Now I did! I was a fool, and there was my name in crayon to prove it. And the teacher would be returning soon.


"Quick, let's get some wet paper towels," said Judy, springing into action.


After vigorous rubbing, my name still remained.



"I think I saw a can of cleanser by the sink in the coat room," I said as I raced to find it. Precious minutes were ticking away.


We rubbed and my name came off all right, but in the process of removing it, we left an abrasion on the chalkboard.


Listening for footsteps coming down the hall, we dried the scrubbed area as much as we could with more paper towels and fanned it with a book to remove every tell-tall trace of wetness.


We were just slipped into our desks as the bell rang and the other students began entering the room. The teacher in soon afterward.


Mrs. Eiffler never asked about the abrasion and maybe never noticed it. But I did. Every time I walked past the marred surface of the chalkboard, I remembered. Oh, how I remembered.


The lesson I learned that day is one I never forgot, even though over forty years have passed since the event. "No one will ever know" is never true. Even if no one else found out, Jesus knew and I knew. Sometimes living with a guilty conscience is punishment enough.